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Saturday, April 28, 2012

Medical Exam OVER! Whew!

What a headache!  Ugh!  The medical exam place was crawling with adoptive families all needing to see the doctor!  Our amazing guide Kelly is SO organized:)  She had to get 6 families, with 8 kids to go through the general exam, where they weighed and measured them and had them trace a circle and triangle with their finger???? listened to their chest and looked BRIEFLY at their medical papers, then we went to the ENT where they peeked BRIEFLY in their ears, and gagged them with a popsicle stick....which....surprise surprise..made Iley SHRIEK!  She did not appreciate any of the doctors!  Then we had to go to get them a TB skin test.....NOT FUN!  They both held pretty still, Iley CRIED and CRIED at the top of her lungs as normal, and hers even BLED a little...horrors!  A kind other mother, offered a band aid which brought the decibel level down a couple of notches, but not off for another 10 minutes at least.  Wren looked at me in HORROR when they stuck her!  It was dreadful!  Then she didn't want me to touch her for several minutes!  She just cried big SILENT tears........which is MUCH more heart rending than miss Iley's shreiking!!  She just makes us want to thump her noggin!!!  I'm betting that the workout she's given her lungs this week will stand her in good stead with heart surgery!  She exercises her lungs more than any other muscle/organ in her body...........unless it's her bladder!  I have NEVER seen two kids Potty more often!!! and if one goes....they BOTH go!  I have to admit i have succumbed to the Chinese way of bathroom breaks.........you simply find the nearest bushes, foilage, trash can, grate......hold them by the legs, and prop your elbows on your knees and shake them off when they're done!!!  Oh my goodness!!! I had to laugh when i thought about what my father would say to this!!!LOL  Sorry Dad!  Bathrooms are few and far between, and we really have no choice when they are dancing around holding themselves...for the ,3,000th time(it seems) for the day!

Don't look now......but they have been playing HAPPILY TOGETHER in the tub for at least 30 min!!! Every time they act like they are ready to get out I give them something new to play with!! first a small shampoo bottle (two of course) then their polly pocket dolls.....then body wash for the polly pockets...but it's about bedtime, so I need to quit stalling them and get them out before they are frozen wrinkled prunes! (Wren keeps adding cold water...it's frigid!)  It's a small glimpse into the future which gives us hope that we may actually have some semblance of a normal life again in the future!  We get a bit nostalgic occasionally about the EASY life we had.....but then we get a sweet unprompted kiss from Wren, and a cheeky, dimpled, cocked headed, grin from miss termagant, and we remember that we are working for the KING of KINGS, and these two lives have been changed, (along with ours:-0) They are settling down a little, and are much more relaxed.  We are SO thankful for nice weather! (hot and humid, but not raining)  If we had to stay cooped up in this little room with them both all day......someone might die:(LOL  probably ME!  We have about walked our, and their, legs off!  We push them in the strollers to the park and let them play on the play ground, and walk/run/hop/drive the strollers crazy(nearly taking out several innocent pedestrians) down the lovely walkways:)  Then we walked all over the little streets and alley ways.......Marking our territory like a bunch of puppies!  Then we braved a restaurant alone....where we ordered from pictures on a menu, and hoped for the best.  We got fried rice, candied potatoes(very strange, more like hard tack candy on them!) fried pork pieces with a glaze on it, and some kind of fried leek cake.  The girls loved the rice and leeks!(I thought of you Grandma D. as Wren was scrapping every last crumb of leeks, onions and garlic off her plate!)  They wouldn't touch the potatoes or the pork! They both drank their hot green tea like little Chinese princess's!  We had walked them and us to the restaurant, and they were BUSHED.....so were we but there's no rest for the weary!  We ended up carrying them most of the 4 blocks home.  Miss screechy was very subdued, and hardly made a peep!! Blessed relief!!  She's been playing NICELY for a WHILE:):):):):)  That deserves a LOT of smiley faces!

We walked to the park with another couple that adopted an older boy from a different province that had been in foster care for 2 years, and bounced around caretakers for most of his life.  They had an awful gotcha day!!!!  The dad got BIT hard on his shoulder, the guide got bit, and they had to close the consulate office and almost force him out of it!!!  So THANK YOU for all your prayers, and most of all Thank you LORD for a wonderful gotcha experience.  Thankfully this is the other family's 3rd adoption, so they know that when they get him home it will get easier.  I will say again, on their behalf and ours....the language barrier is HUGE!!!  We feel your prayers and are SO grateful for each and every one of you!  Please pray for Iley to become more content!  She can literally cry/screech...no tears... for an hour straight!  EVERYONE knows when the Deatons are coming!  WHEW!  Between times she is a delight:)  We just can't wait to see it more often!  I think she was extremely spoiled, and everytime she cried or fussed she got her way.....it's not working for her and she doesn't know what to do! (and yep kids...she's got Dad's "mean mug" more than a few times...It doesn't even phase her!)  We are quick to praise her and tell her GOOD GIRL, when she is nice......or quiet for a few minutes:)
I MUST get them out of the  tub!  they need to be in bed and so do we!  Sorry no pictures from today, I ran out of time!  Blessings, and MUCH love to each of you!  Suzy HUG my boys for me and tell them I miss them all !!!! Big and small.........welll......smaller:)

8 comments:

  1. OH my Judy....ss and I just sat here and laughed and then we would say ohhh...just understood so much of your sharing!! Although you have one on us with those potty breaks!!:) Wow....they say desperate people calls for desperate measures or something like that:) This must be one time it applies:):) Glad the medical exam is behind you, your checking things off and soon you will be on that plane heading HOME!! So thankful you are feeling His strength and grace moment by moment...He won't let you go...EVER!!:) And like you said the "easy" life isn't what we are called to...even tho we sure liked it kinda well:\ Yes this is where you want to be:) Praying for you tons and thank you so much for the update!!:)glad they enjoy their baths....good "clean fun" for ALL:):) love you each one!! May His peace be yours!!!!

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  2. Love the update and so glad you are through with the medical exam! Please tell Kelli we said hello! She is just wonderful and so very organized. I was amazed. Iley sounds like a little stinker but I'm sure she will settle down....eventually! And Wren sounds just as I thought she would be....sweet and even tempered. "Gentle" as Willow said. It won't be long now and you'll be in the final stretch. I know you are missing your family and the comforts of home but try to enjoy as much as possible. You may never be in China again....or will you? Willow has been following along but her biggest concerns are that your girls have pocket books that she likes and she wants one and she wanted to be at the zoo with Dayu, however, informed me that she did not want Dayu's dress but little Caroline's instead!!! LOL It's all about "the stuff" with her...nevermind that her friends just got a wonderful new mama and baba!!! Continuing to pray everyday, hang in there. I know it's not easy but it is worth it. Like you said, you are doing the work of the Father and He is very pleased!!! Much Much LOVE!!! Angela

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  3. :) You are all troopers. Miss Screechy must have a good set of lungs.
    Marking your trail...that is pretty funny stuff.
    Praying for you.

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  4. Love the updates, Judy. Keep 'em comin'! Praying for you all!

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  5. I had to laugh at the mean mug. Tell Troy he's going to have to work on that. ;) So excited to follow your adoption journey! Praying for you all as you adjust to your new girlies. Enjoy the pink!

    Love you!

    Monica Hufford

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  6. We SO enjoy your updates!! Wren sounds like such a sweetie and iley Well... she sounds like a barrell of energy :) SO excited to meet them!! Love from The 5 of us!

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  7. I've enjoyed getting a "taste" of this part of the adoption process...WOW...I know there's moments to enjoy but hoping for your sake this "survival" mode won't last forever! Praying for His faithfulness to strengthen you & His grace to ease the adjustment for all of you. It's fun to get your updates whenever you get a chance to post :)

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  8. Well Judy, Katie Grace Xi Hua was not a screecher, but if you recall, she threw a doosy of a tantrum every day in China and one of those was at the medical exam place amongst all of those people packed in there. Oh my Lord that was exhausting! She screamed and cried and everyone, especially Chinese people just stared at us. Many offered advice, nothing helped. Well, when we got home those tantrums worked their way out of her system over 2 months and were gone.

    Also, XiHua had to go potty ALL THE TIME TOO!!! I mean every 1/2 hour it seemed! It was crazy!! That started to regulate better in time too. :) Hang in there!

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